This issue:
Mutual Love Stories
Check to see if you and your partner share a similar love story.
If not, see if you can develop a mutual love story.
Why
People all over the world crave love stories–in books, magazines,
television, music, theatre, and fairly tales. They play a big role
in our culture and our psyches. When you pair off with a lover or partner,
you probably have some stories in your mind that validate your beliefs about love.
There are many types of love story scripts. For Dr. Zhivago love was
a passionate poetic adventure. In The African Queen, Captain Allnut (Bogey)
and Miss Sayer (Hepburn) found that fighting adversity together brought
admiration, respect, and even love. "I never dreamed any mere physical experience
could be so stimulating!" says Ms Sayer. Romeo and Juliet saw love as a compelling force
as did Tony and Maria in the remake, West Side Story in which they sing,
"When love comes so strong, there is no right or wrong."
Love stories can emphasize pure sensuality as in Tristan and Isolde, being drawn to
character as in Frank Capra movies, or destiny as in Aida. Gilbert and Sullivan
suggest love is folie B deux. Many Western and hero movies have the man as hero and protector.
In Fiddler on the Roof, Goldie and Tevye find love comes from sharing
experiences and following traditions over the years.
O'Henry's Gift of the Magi suggests love is mutual self-sacrifice. You'll recall
the poor wife sold her hair to buy her husband a watch chain for Christmas
and he sold his watch to buy her combs. Perhaps the sappiest script for
love is “love means never having to say you’re sorry.” from Love Story.
So what story results in the best marriages?
Psychologist Robert Sternberg’s research found that
all kinds of stories can bring happy, fulfilling relationships.
Couples are more likely to be happy and fulfilled, however,
when they subscribe to the same story.
American couples in the nineteenth century usually had a story
with traditional roles and lifelong fidelity. In the 1960s,
the women’s liberation movement affected a lot of divorces
when many wives’ scripts for marriage changed and
their husbands wanted to keep the traditional scripts.
Today we have even more varied stories.
You can determine your love story script by considering
Quotes
Suffering is the true
cement of love.
~Paul Sabatier
The cat and the love you
give away come back to you.
~(source unknown)
Humor
Soldier leaving base, "This has got to be love at first sight.
I'm on an eight hour pass."
Platonic love is the interval between events.
Bachelors are the bootleggers of love.
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Anti-Aging
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